Muslim Tradition is not equal to wife beating or child marriage like the Western civilization is not equal to torture in Abu Gharaib or alcoholism or Christian tradition or atheism equal to Spanish inquisitions or holocaust

Any tradition that is followed by billions and have millions of apologists is bound to show some dirty laundry for one reason or another. Without going into specific reasons, why we all have dirty laundry, because we all sweat and are smelly mammals, let me just suggest that to understand a tradition, you want to immerse yourself in it at least temporarily, while you study it, so you can judge it in a holistic fashion as an insider rather than as an outside critic, who just frowns at what he or she finds ugly! Take a leaf from the book of Jonathan Butterworth, how he discovered Islam by studying it at some length with a open mind and positive attitude.
A non-Muslim and for that matter even a Muslim may not agree with each individual detail of what is written in the Holy Quran and it certainly does not have to be forced on a given society. The Holy Quran only gives suggestions or choices, when it comes to public sphere. For example, I have never known any woman, including my mother, whom I respected and loved a lot, who would be fully happy with the permission of polygamy, in the Holy Quran. Their relative inability to grasp this divine teaching does not make them bad Muslims. However, at the same time, this does not mean that polygamy is bad for those women who cannot find a suitable husband or for those children, who do not have a loving and responsible father. So, as a legislative body or a congress examines the utility of any idea before approving its details, in a pluralistic society, could discuss the merit of any idea, or lack thereof, whether it comes from the Quran, the Bible, the mind of a visionary or someone with a myopic vision. As long as we agree on the legislative process, there should be perfect peace and harmony, regardless of citizens’ belief in different traditions and with varying intensity!

Each and every recommendation of Sharia, whether it is mentioned in the Holy Quran or not, should be judged on its utilitarian value and not lumped together to promote the monster of Islamophobia or a political agenda of power hungry Mullah. If we lump every thing together, it is not a dialogue but merely political posturing!

One should examine each and every teaching under the Sharia separately
The year of 2011 saw an exceptional example, wherein USA government negotiated blood money for the murder committed by Raymond Davis. You could google his name for details. The point I want to make is that here was an example, where the West and the East happily took a leaf from the book of Sharia.